Author: Neil

Worrying is a common human experience that can be difficult to manage. It can be triggered by many different things, from everyday stressors to more significant life events. Whatever the cause, worrying can be exhausting and overwhelming, affecting our ability to concentrate, sleep, and even our physical health.

Solution focused hypnotherapy is one approach that can help people overcome their worries. It focuses on the present and future rather than the past, helping clients identify their strengths and resources to achieve their goals. During a hypnotherapy session, the therapist will guide the client into a state of deep relaxation and suggest positive, empowering thoughts and images. This can help the client break free from negative thought patterns and see their problems in a new, more positive light.

One way solution focused hypnotherapy can help stop worrying is by teaching clients how to shift their focus away from negative thoughts and towards more positive ones. By encouraging clients to identify and focus on their strengths, solution focused hypnotherapy can help them build confidence and resilience. This can help them feel better equipped to handle the challenges they face and reduce the frequency and intensity of worrying.

In addition, solution focused hypnotherapy can also help clients develop practical strategies for dealing with worrying. By encouraging clients to set achievable goals and identify small, manageable steps towards achieving them, solution focused hypnotherapy can help them feel more in control of their lives. This can be particularly helpful for people who feel overwhelmed by their worries and don’t know where to start.

Ultimately, the goal of solution focused hypnotherapy is to help clients tap into their own inner resources and develop the confidence and resilience they need to overcome their worries. By learning how to focus on the positive, set achievable goals, and develop practical strategies for managing their worries, clients can learn how to live more fulfilling and satisfying lives.

4 wonderful ways to wipe away worrying

So how do you get yourself out of the being caught up in chronic worrying and use your imagination more productively? Here are four powerful tips.

1) Get distance on the worry

I’ll often talk about how we are capable of imagining absolutely anything, but whether we buy in to what we imagine is another matter altogether. Stephen King uses his imagination (as do many writers) to create terrifying scenarios, but he produces all these scary ideas without being scared witless by them himself. He can clearly separate himself from what he is imagining.

Simple as it sounds, this is often a completely new idea for many worriers. As I’m typing this, I can quite vividly imagine the ceiling caving in on top of me while not believing for one second that it’s going to happen (fingers crossed).

So rather than trying to get yourself not to think about it – possibly the most useless advice ever – just relax deeply while imagining what normally scares you.

In effect, you are asking yourself to worry without feeling worried. I have found this to be surprisingly easy and effective.

And when you can hypnotically see your worries in the distance -over there- while feeling ever so relaxed over here. I might even prescribe set doses of worrying while relaxed for the chronic worrier to take between sessions.

Emotion is the neon sign yelling  “Pay attention to this!” and when you diminish the emotion, the old worrying thoughts become much less compulsive.

2) Organise the worrying

There’s nothing like a timetable for bringing things under control.

Worry tends to be intrusive, to gate crash your head when you’re trying to enjoy yourself or concentrate on something. Prescribing worry time is a neat way of prescribing the symptom and organising this destructive use of the imagination as a prelude to getting rid of it once and for all.

(Of course, being able to worry sometimes is useful for all of us, so perhaps we won’t get rid of it completely – just keep it in its place.)

When you select a specific time of day to sit down and do nothing but worry for a specific period, you give yourself permission to defer worrying.

When they a troublesome thought occurs, say to yourself: “Okay,  there’s a worrying thought.  I’ll worry about that in my worry time, not now.”

Setting up a fixed period, no longer than 20 minutes for worrying soon shows you that worrying doesn’t have the hold over you that you thought. When you must do it for 20 minutes, it gets harder and harder to do – thus transforming itself from something that you can’t help doing to something that is a real nuisance to keep up.

3) Write down solution steps

Worrying that doesn’t lead anywhere is like a dog chasing its tail!

It’s been shown that writing about emotional issues lowers stress hormone levels, perhaps because writing requires us to use other (less emotional) parts of the brain. But to be really effective writing needs to be more than just venting.

So get yourself to begin using this practical writing technique:

List write down, exactly and clearly, just what you are fearful of, making as full a list as possible

Split mark each item on the list in such a way as to show if it is soluble, or insoluble. For example, worries about situations that cannot be immediately changed, or concerns over the unchangeable past.

Steps copy all the soluble items into a single column on one side of a page and note down beside each item in the next column some practical steps that can be taken towards fixing that problem.

Resolve copy all the insoluble items into a single column on one side of another page. Beside each item describe how you would need to feel differently about these issues in order to resolve these worries psychologically. For example, I need to accept that the plane takes off and makes a lot of noise as the engines gather speed and this will always be so.

4) Chuck your worries away effectively

Writing down bad memories, enclosing the paper in an envelope, sealing the envelope and then burning it has been found to influence the memory. In the sense that recollection of the emotional details of an event becomes weaker after this metaphorical act.

I once had a client who told me she was worried about certain things she felt she couldn’t talk to me about. I asked her whether she could write them down so we could dispose of them properly. She did so. I then asked her to take the sealed envelope and put it into her log burner and burn it.

We then talked about those things she did feel able to discuss with me. In a later session, she confided that since doing that ritual she somehow felt much less concerned about those secret worries.

Ultimately, worry should be a tool or a signal that lets us know when something might need addressing. We don’t want to lose this tool completely, but no tool should ever be allowed to enslave its owner.