Are you getting enough?

alcohol drinking drunk cornwall

It’s a question we need to ask ourselves sometimes. Alcohol, chocolate, food.

So what am I talking about here is for those times when you go out for a drink in the evening. You hopefully meet up with your friends and eventually you have more than you should and then you end up drunk. Sound familiar? Well I have news for you. Your naturally existing neurotransmitter, serotonin, is completely wiped out in the process.

Serotonin is a neurotransmitter, and is considered to be a contributor to feelings of well-being and happiness.

So when you wake the morning after… maybe you’re feeling depressed, a little anxious or miserable in some way. You simply don’t possess those naturally occurring neurotransmitters.

These chemicals / additives that you’re ingesting through all that alcohol, food or drugs produce similar patterns in the brain.  But not the same as when you are naturally behaving positively and producing serotonin.

The mind confuses the two.

Your primitive mind will promote the intake of alcohol on the basis that it’s ‘helpful’ to us.

Likewise with food, if one bar of chocolate feels good what will three bars feel like!? WOW!

When an alcoholic drinks all night, they wake in the morning as a miserable so and so. But here’s the thing, their mind will put up with themselves during the day, Providing they drink every night.

alcoholic drunk with alcohol drink addiction

The mind becomes disinterested in the proper chemicals and will accept the chemical substitutes. Then you end up with that spiral of excessive alcohol or overeating of food.

You can see that ensuring you possess sufficient levels of naturally occurring neurotransmitters will generally prevent that type of uncontrolled behaviour. We generally retain what we call intellectual control rather than behaving in risky activity.

As a solution focused hypnotherapist I will help you back to producing those naturally occurring brain chemicals, in a delicious and enjoyable way. Rather than trying to eat or drink your way out of it.

Curious habits

smoking man habit

Be curious about your habits

One of my clients recently told me that smoking “smells like rancid cheese, and takes like chemicals”. She knew that smoking was bad for her. My fascination focused on when she discovered that by being a little more curious about when she smoked, she realised that it actually tastes like the contents of a toilet bowl. It was as if the spell of smoking had been broken. And subsequently become disenchanted by her behaviour.

You see, she moved from having the knowledge to having wisdom about it. Literally knowing it in her head that it’s bad, to the deep knowing of it in her bones.

So to start to understand why, we need to look at how unwelcome habits begin in the first place.

woman eating food habit We see some food that looks good, So our brain says “CALORIES SURVIVAL !”

So we end up eating the food. We’ll taste it, and it tastes good, especially the sugar. Our bodies then send a signal to our brain that says something like “REMEMBER WHAT YOU’RE EATING AND WHERE YOU FOUND IT”

What we end up doing is learning to repeat the process for next time.

See food.


Feel nice.




Simple isn’t it ?

So if we go back to our younger years say when we were teenagers, and we see those kids who rebel. They smoke and we think, “Mmmm I want to be like that – I want to be cool”. So we end up smoking.

Smoke to be cool – Feel good – Repeat

Trigger, Behaviour, Reward

Each and every time we do it, we begin to learn to repeat that process and allow it to become a habit.

Now the pre-frontal cortex, that youngest part of our brain, understands that we shouldn’t smoke and it tries its hardest to help us change our behaviour, to help us stop smoking or help us stop eating that 2nd, 3rd that 4th biscuit.

We call this cognitive control, we’re using cognition to control our behaviour. Unfortunately, this is also the first part of our brain that goes offline when we get stressed out, which isn’t that helpful. So what happens when that part of the brain goes offline? We fall back into our old habits. Seeing what we get from our habits helps us understand them in a deeper level, to know it in our bones so we don’t have to force ourselves to hold back or restrain ourselves from behaviour.

Over time as we see more clearly the results of our actions, we let go of old habits and form new ones. It’s about being really interested in getting close and personal with what’s actually happening in our bodies and minds, this willingness to turn toward our experience rather than trying to make unpleasant cravings go away as quickly as possible.

When we get curious, we step out of our old, fear-based reactive habit patterns and we step into being. If you don’t smoke or stress eat, maybe the next time you feel this urge to check your email when you’re bored or you’re trying to distract yourself from work, or maybe to compulsively respond to that text message, see if you can tap into this natural capacity, just be curiously aware of whats happening in your body and mind in that moment.

It will just be another chance to perpetuate one of our endless and exhaustive habit loops. Or step out of it.

Instead of…. see text message, compulsively text back, feel a little bit better. Notice the urge, get curious, feel the joy of letting go, and repeat.

Wipe away worrying

Photo of woman staring out train window considering the Fast phobia release and worrying

4 wonderful ways to wipe away worries

Drag your thoughts away from your troubles by the ears, by the heels, or any other way you can manage it!”              (Mark Twain)

Worrying’ is a word that comes from an old English expression meaning to strangle. That’s an appropriate connotation, because worries can certainly strangle the life out of you.

Persistent, chronic worrying can turn into an uncomfortable habit that’s hard to get shot of, like an old pair of shoes that have become cracked or misshapen, so that wearing them is actually harmful, but you’ve worn them for so long it’s hard to bring yourself to get rid of them.

Chronic worriers even worry when they have nothing to worry about!  Some feel that if they don’t worry then they are tempting fate. One guy I worked with felt that it was his worrying (rather than, say, jet propulsion) that kept the plane in flight whenever he flew. He said “I feel like if I don’t worry, something bad will happen!” ”

Worrying is not harmless. It has consequences. The more we worry, the more stress hormone we produce and the more we dream at night. In turn, over-dreaming caused by unresolved worry can cause clinical depression (something else to worry about!).

The role of the imagination

Chronic worrying (which most of us will fall into to some extent at times) has been called a thought disorder.’ But it’s more a misuse of the imagination. ‘Imagination disorder’ may not sound quite so clinical, but is possibly more accurate. Imagination is not just all in your head. It has measurable, palpable effects, physical and behavioural.

Chronic jealousy, for example, is a classic misuse of the imagination.  Jealous people, often with no real grounds, may imagine all sorts of negative things about their partner’s actions and intentions. This can significantly raise their blood pressure (evidence of the hypnotic power of the imagination to affect the body). It may even lead them to commit terrible crimes, all because they buy into the scenario created by their imagination.

Hypnotherapy, of course, works in the same way but to positive ends. We use the imagination in hypnosis to alter physical phenomena. For example, improve immune response, take away pain. And behavioural responses, for example, help someone stop smoking.

The common denominator is the imagination, and whether a person uses it constructively or destructively.

So how do you get yourself out of the being caught up in chronic worrying and use your imagination more productively? Here are four powerful tips.

1) Get distance on the worry

I’ll often talk about how we are capable of imagining absolutely anything, but whether we buy in to what we imagine is another matter altogether. Stephen King uses his imagination (as do many writers) to create terrifying scenarios, but he produces all these scary ideas without being scared witless by them himself. He can clearly separate himself from what he is imagining.

Simple as it sounds, this is often a completely new idea for many worriers. As I’m typing this, I can quite vividly imagine the ceiling caving in on top of me while not believing for one second that it’s going to happen (fingers crossed).

So rather than trying to get yourself not to think about it’ – possibly the most useless advice ever – just relax deeply while imagining what normally scares you.

In effect, you are asking yourself to worry without feeling worried. I have found this to be surprisingly easy and effective.

And when you can hypnotically see yourworries in the distance -‘over there’- while feeling ever so relaxed over here. I might even prescribe set doses of worrying while relaxed for the chronic worrier to take between sessions.

Emotion is the neon sign yelling  “Pay attention to this!”” and when you diminish the emotion, the old worrying thoughts become much less compulsive.

2) Organise the worrying

There’s nothing like a timetable for bringing things under control.

Worry tends to be intrusive, to gate crash your head when you’re trying to enjoy yourself or concentrate on something. Prescribing worry time is a neat way of prescribing the symptom and organising this destructive use of the imagination as a prelude to getting rid of it once and for all.

(Of course, being able to worry sometimes is useful for all of us, so perhaps we won’t get rid of it completely – just keep it in its place.)

When you select a specific time of day to sit down and do nothing but worry for a specific period, you give yourself permission to defer worrying.

When they a troublesome thought occurs, say to yourself: “”Okay,  there’s a worrying thought.  I’ll worry about that in my worry time, not now.”

Setting up a fixed period, no longer than 20 minutes for worrying soon shows you that worrying doesn’t have the hold over you that you thought. When you must do it for 20 minutes, it gets harder and harder to do – thus transforming itself from something that you can’t help doing to something that is a real nuisance to keep up.

3) Write down solution steps

Worrying that doesn’t lead anywhere is like a dog chasing its tail!

It’s been shown that writing about emotional issues lowers stress hormone levels, perhaps because writing requires us to use other (less emotional) parts of the brain. But to be really effective writing needs to be more than just venting.

So get yourself to begin using this practical writing technique:

List write down, exactly and clearly, just what you are fearful of, making as full a list as possible

Split –mark each item on the list in such a way as to show if it is soluble, or insoluble. For example, worries about situations that cannot be immediately changed, or concerns over the unchangeable past.

Steps –copy all the soluble items into a single column on one side of a page and note down beside each item in the next column some practical steps that can be taken towards fixing’that problem.

Resolve– copy all the insoluble items into a single column on one side of another page. Beside each item describe how you would need to feel differently about these issues in order to resolve these worries psychologically. For example, I need to accept that the plane takes off and makes a lot of noise as the engines gather speed and this will always be so.

4) Chuck your worries away

Writing down bad memories, enclosing the paper in an envelope, sealing the envelope and then burning it has been found to influence the memory. In the sense that recollection of the emotional details of an event becomes weaker after this metaphorical act.

I once had a client who told me she was worried about certain things she felt she couldn’t talk to me about. I asked her whether she could write them down so we could dispose of them properly. She did so. I then asked her to take the sealed envelope and put it into her log burner and burn it.

We then talked about those things she did feel able to discuss with me. In a later session, she confided that since doing that ritual she somehow felt much less concerned about those secret worries.

Ultimately, worry should be a tool or a signal that lets us know when something might need addressing. We don’t what to lose this tool completely, but no tool should ever be allowed to enslave its owner.