Category: Confidence & Self Esteem Therapy

Confidence and self-esteem therapy – Boost your confidence and self-esteem with my professional hypnotherapy services, and techniques.

  • Fear of Public Speaking

    Fear of Public Speaking

    How Hypnotherapy and the Rewind Technique Can Help You Overcome Public Speaking Anxiety in Cornwall

    Introduction

    As a hypnotherapist in Cornwall, I know firsthand how public speaking anxiety can be a significant obstacle to personal and professional growth. Fortunately, there are effective techniques for managing this type of anxiety, such as hypnotherapy and the rewind technique. In this blog post, I’ll explore how these techniques can help you conquer public speaking anxiety and provide tips for finding a qualified hypnotherapist in Cornwall. I’ll also discuss other methods for managing public speaking anxiety, such as deep breathing exercises, visualisation, and desensitisation through gradual exposure to public speaking situations.

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    Understanding Public Speaking Anxiety

    Public speaking anxiety, also known as glossophobia, is a type of social anxiety that occurs when an individual is faced with the prospect of speaking in front of others. Symptoms can include a racing heart, sweating, shaking, and difficulty breathing. These physical symptoms can make it difficult for individuals to concentrate on their speech and can lead to feelings of embarrassment and shame. The causes of public speaking anxiety can be complex and may include a fear of judgment or failure, a lack of confidence in one’s abilities, or a past negative experience with public speaking.

    How Hypnotherapy and the Rewind Technique Can Help

    As a hypnotherapist in Cornwall, I specialise in helping individuals overcome public speaking anxiety using a combination of hypnotherapy and the rewind technique. Hypnotherapy is an effective tool for managing public speaking anxiety by helping individuals reframe their thoughts and emotions around public speaking. During hypnotherapy sessions, I guide my clients into a state of deep relaxation and suggest positive affirmations to help build confidence and reduce anxiety. I also use visualisation techniques to help my clients imagine themselves delivering a successful speech, further boosting their confidence and reducing anxiety.

    The rewind technique is another powerful tool for managing public speaking anxiety. This technique involves revisiting, in a dissociative way, a past traumatic experience(s) related to public speaking, and then using visualisation to “rewind” the memory to a neutral or positive outcome. By doing so, the individual can reduce the emotional impact of the memory and eliminate any associated anxiety or fear.

    When using the rewind technique for public speaking anxiety, I guide my clients through the following steps:

    1. Identify the traumatic memory: The first step is to identify the specific memory or memories that are contributing to the individual’s public speaking anxiety. This could be a past negative experience, such as forgetting a speech or being laughed at by an audience.
    2. Visualise the memory: Once the memory has been identified, the individual visualises the memory in as much detail as possible, paying attention to the emotions and physical sensations associated with it. This is done from a third-person perspective, so you’re not experiencing it. Rather just viewing the scene from a distance.
    3. Rewind the memory: Using visualisation techniques, the individual rewinds the memory to a neutral or positive outcome. For example, if the memory involves forgetting a speech, the individual visualises themselves forgetting the speech repeatedly forwards and backwards until the emotional attachment is discharged.
    4. Reinforce the new memory: Once the memory has been rewound and discharged, the individual can reinforce a new memory by reframing it and associating it with positive emotions.

    Tips for Finding a Qualified Hypnotherapist in Cornwall

    If you’re considering hypnotherapy for public speaking anxiety, it’s important to find a qualified and experienced hypnotherapist. Here are some tips for finding a hypnotherapist in Cornwall:

    1. Do your research: Look for a hypnotherapist who specialises in public speaking anxiety and has experience working with clients with similar issues.
    2. Check credentials: Ensure that the hypnotherapist you choose is fully qualified and registered with a recognised professional organisation, such as the National Council for Hypnotherapy (NCH)
    3. Read reviews: Look for reviews or testimonials from previous clients to get an idea of their experiences.
    4. Schedule a consultation: Before committing to a hypnotherapy program, schedule a consultation with the hypnotherapist to discuss your concerns and determine if they’re a good fit for you.
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    Other Methods for Managing Public Speaking Anxiety

    In addition to hypnotherapy and the rewind technique, there are other methods for managing public speaking anxiety. Here are a few examples:

    1. Deep breathing exercises: Taking deep, slow breaths can help reduce anxiety and promote relaxation. Try inhaling for a count of four, holding for a count of four, and exhaling for a count of four.
    2. Visualisation: Visualisation techniques can be used to imagine oneself delivering a successful speech and feeling confident and relaxed.
    3. Desensitisation: Gradual exposure to public speaking situations can help reduce anxiety over time. This could involve starting with small, low-pressure speaking engagements and gradually working up to larger, more challenging events.
    4. Positive affirmations: Repeating positive affirmations to oneself, such as “I am confident and capable,” can help build self-esteem and reduce anxiety.

    Conclusion

    If you’re struggling with public speaking anxiety in Cornwall, hypnotherapy and the rewind technique can be powerful tools for overcoming this obstacle and achieving your goals. By working with a qualified hypnotherapist, you can reframe your thoughts and emotions around public speaking and develop the confidence and skills you need to succeed. Remember to also explore other methods for managing public speaking anxiety, such as deep breathing exercises and visualisation, to find what works best for you.

  • Time Distortion and Flow State

    Time Distortion and Flow State

    Introduction:

    Welcome to my blog. In this article, I will explore two captivating phenomena—Time Distortion and Flow State—and how they can enhance your personal growth, well-being, and performance. Whether you’re a potential client curious about the possibilities of hypnotherapy or a past client seeking a deeper understanding, I invite you to embark on this journey of self-discovery and transformation.

    I. Understanding Time Distortion: The Magic of Perception

    Time distortion is an intriguing phenomenon experienced during hypnosis. As our minds enter a deep state of relaxation and heightened suggestibility, time can appear to speed up, slow down, or even become irrelevant. In this section, I will delve into the mechanics of time perception and how it can be harnessed to unlock new possibilities.

    Time is not an absolute construct but rather a subjective experience influenced by various factors. During hypnosis, the mind can enter a state of deep relaxation and heightened receptivity to suggestions, allowing for a unique perception of time. It’s as if the usual constraints of time melt away, and we enter a realm where moments stretch and compress according to our inner experience.

    In this timeless state, you can tap into the power of the present moment. The worries and distractions of the outside world fade away, leaving you fully immersed in the richness of your inner experiences. Time becomes fluid, allowing for a deeper exploration of your thoughts, emotions, and desires. It is within this time-distorted landscape that profound transformations can occur.

    II. Flow State: The Gateway to Optimal Performance

    Flow state, often referred to as being “in the zone,” is a state of complete immersion, focus, and enjoyment in an activity. It is a pinnacle of human experience where time seems to vanish, and we operate at our highest potential. In this section, I will uncover the transformative power of flow state and its practical applications.

    When you enter a state of flow, you transcend the limitations of time and effortlessly engage with the task at hand. Your attention becomes laser-focused, and actions flow naturally, as if guided by an unseen force. In this state, you experience a merging of action and awareness, where every movement feels instinctual and harmonious.

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    Time takes on a different quality in flow state. It can appear to stretch, as hours pass by in what feels like minutes. Alternatively, it can contract, with minutes feeling like hours when you’re fully absorbed in the present moment. This time distortion phenomenon within flow state amplifies the sense of complete immersion and heightens the pleasure derived from the activity.

    Flow state has been observed across various domains, from sports and arts to professional endeavors. Athletes often describe being in a state of flow during peak performance, where their skills are honed to perfection, and they feel a profound connection with their actions. Artists, musicians, and writers also experience flow state when their creativity flows effortlessly, and they become one with their artistic expression.

    III. The Symbiotic Relationship: Time Distortion and Flow State

    In this section, I bridge the gap between time distortion and flow state, showcasing their profound connection and how they can be synergistically integrated in your hypnotherapy journey.

    The relationship between time distortion and flow state is rooted in the fundamental nature of human consciousness. In both phenomena, time becomes a malleable construct, subject to the power of perception. Time distortion, experienced during hypnosis, can pave the way for entering a state of flow, while flow state deepens the time distortion experience, creating a profound sense of being fully present in the moment.

    During hypnosis, a skilled hypnotherapist will guide you through relaxation techniques and suggestions that open the door to time distortion. As you enter this altered state of consciousness, the boundaries of time expand or contract, allowing for a more profound exploration of your inner world.

    Once time distortion is established, it becomes a fertile ground for accessing flow state. In this harmonious state, your skills, abilities, and focus align perfectly with the challenges presented to you. You become fully absorbed in the present moment, transcending the constraints of time and entering a state of effortless engagement.

    The merging of time distortion and flow state amplifies the transformative potential of your hypnotherapy experience. As you explore the depths of your mind, you tap into your innate creativity, resilience, and personal power. The boundaries that once constrained you begin to dissolve, and you discover new realms of possibility.

    IV. Practical Applications: Embracing Time Distortion and Flow State in Your Life

    Now that I have laid the foundation of understanding, it’s time to explore how time distortion and flow state can be practically applied in various aspects of your life. From personal growth to professional performance, you will discover how these phenomena can elevate your experiences and unlock new realms of possibility.

    1. Personal Development:
      • Managing Stress and Anxiety: Through time distortion techniques, you can create a sanctuary of relaxation and calm, helping you alleviate stress and anxiety.
      • Cultivating Mindfulness: Time distortion can deepen your mindfulness practice, allowing you to fully immerse yourself in the present moment and cultivate a greater sense of self-awareness.
      • Enhancing Self-Exploration: By utilising time distortion and flow state, you can embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery, exploring your beliefs, values, and inner potential.
    2. Performance Enhancement:
      • Athletic Excellence: Flow state can optimise your athletic performance, as you tap into a heightened state of focus, coordination, and physical mastery.
      • Creative Expression: Unlock your artistic potential by entering flow state, where your creativity flows effortlessly, and you connect deeply with your chosen artistic medium.
      • Professional Achievement: By harnessing flow state in your work, you can achieve peak productivity, tap into innovative thinking, and experience a deep sense of fulfillment.

    V. Embrace Your Potential: Partnering with My Hypnotherapy Practice

    At Neil Cox Hypnotherapy, I am dedicated to helping you unlock your full potential and achieve lasting transformation. As an experienced and compassionate hypnotherapist I am committed to guiding you through the profound journey of time distortion and flow state.

    Through a personalised approach, I tailor each session to your unique needs and goals. My expertise in hypnosis allows us to create a safe and nurturing space for you to explore the depths of your consciousness and access your inner wisdom.

    By combining the power of time distortion and flow state, I help you unlock new realms of possibility, overcome limitations, and embrace your true potential. Whether you seek personal growth, stress relief, enhanced performance, or self-exploration, my hypnotherapy services provide a transformative platform for your journey.

    Conclusion

    In the realms of time distortion and flow state, the boundaries of possibility expand, and new horizons come into view. Through hypnotherapy, you can tap into the power of altered time perception and enter a state of flow where your highest potential is realised.

    Embrace the magic of time distortion and flow state, and embark on a journey of self-discovery, personal growth, and transformative change. Allow me to guide you on this path, as I unlock the doors to your inner potential and help you unleash the extraordinary power that lies within you.

  • Overcome Driving Anxiety

    Overcome Driving Anxiety

    Driving can be fraught with many many issues. Maybe you’ve panicked before when out and about on the road. Or perhaps it’s the thought or the imagination of getting those nerves that has been scaring you. Have you failed the driving test repeatedly, and no longer believe you will pass? Does your sense of direction let you down?

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    It’s no surprise that these events tend to go hand in hand with feelings of anxiety. Extreme anxiety allows you to react faster as you get geared for action. You may have noticed that in times of fear or danger that you’re less in tune with the thinking part of your mind. All those rational thoughts are actually meant to diminish in times of real danger, because any decisions we make in a dangerous situation should be very basic. This is fine, of course, when you’re approached by a hungry lion but not when you’re driving your car or taking the driving test.

    Driving anxiety can become linked to anything at all. However, it’s only really valuable when there is no other appropriate way of responding. I will help you recondition this fear response. It’s about splitting you from that memory of a real or imagined situation so that you can be free of its negative impact. And then once you’re relaxed you can rediscover ways in which you can drive calmly or pass the driving test much more easily.

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    I will help you develop a heightened awareness and focus that will allow you to feel more confident; more relaxed, and make you a better driver. Allowing you to demonstrate your skills and your abilities as a driver… you will be amazed that something you had thought would be difficult… will be so much easier.

    Roundabouts

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    Roundabouts can present a wonderful opportunity to show your examiner how well you can read not only the road but the conditions. Fancy being able to approach them and indeed all situations with supreme confidence and allow it to show on your face?

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    That clear headed feeling allows you to know, you’ve overcome the anxiety and can and will remain calm and clear for the duration. For some people parallel parking can prove to be troublesome. Wouldn’t you like to fall back on all your knowledge, skill and confidence to not only show the manoeuvre but to demonstrate it with flair and perfection?

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    If you’re a learner driver, I can provide the mental help you need to beat those nerves and pass your test. Or maybe you’d like the confidence that can help ensure your lessons are enjoyable and less stressful. Free from driving nerves.

    With easy and convenient booking available using my online system you can set your mind at ease with a free consultation and with the opportunity to finally master the skill of driving. Or call me here on 07900255171 if you’d like further information and a chat…

    And finally, because hypnosis works directly with the subconscious mind where fears, phobias and irrational responses are held, it is ideally suited to helping you get rid of them. See a success story from Women’s Health Mag for how hypnotherapy helped with a driving phobia.

  • Unlocking Your Potential

    Unlocking Your Potential

    Do you notice that sometimes you talk yourself out of doing something which would really have been advantageous for you in the long run?

    Setting goals and achieving them is a fundamental aspect of personal growth and development. However, many people struggle with achieving their goals due to self-doubt, fear of failure, or lack of motivation. In this article, we will explore several tips for unlocking your potential and achieving your goals.

    Define Your Goals

    The first step in achieving your goals is to define them clearly. You need to be specific about what you want to achieve and why it matters to you. Start by asking yourself the following questions:

    • What do I want to accomplish?
    • Why is this goal important to me?
    • What steps do I need to take to achieve this goal?

    Once you have defined your goals, write them down and refer to them often to stay focused and motivated.

    Visualise Your Success

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    Visualisation is a powerful tool for unlocking your potential and achieving your goals. When you visualise yourself succeeding, you are programming your subconscious mind to believe that it is possible. Take some time each day to visualise yourself achieving your goals. Imagine how it will feel to accomplish what you set out to do.

    Create a Plan

    Creating a plan is essential for achieving your goals. Break your goal down into smaller, more manageable tasks and create a plan for achieving each one. Set deadlines for each task to keep yourself accountable and on track. Having a plan in place will help you stay organised and motivated.

    Overcome Self-Doubt

    Self-doubt is a common obstacle to achieving your goals. It can make you feel like you are not good enough or capable of achieving what you want. To overcome self-doubt, you need to challenge your negative thoughts and beliefs. Remind yourself of your strengths and accomplishments, and focus on what you can do rather than what you can’t.

    Take Action

    Taking action is the most crucial step in achieving your goals. You can have the best plan in the world, but if you don’t take action, nothing will happen. Start by taking small steps towards your goal each day. Celebrate your progress along the way, and don’t be afraid to adjust your plan if necessary.

    Get Support

    Having support from others can be a powerful motivator for achieving your goals. Find people who believe in you and your vision and surround yourself with them. Seek out mentors or coaches who can provide guidance and support along the way.

    Use Hypnotherapy

    Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool for unlocking your potential and achieving your goals. It can help you overcome self-doubt, increase motivation, and reprogram your subconscious mind for success. By accessing your subconscious mind, hypnotherapy can help you identify and challenge negative thought patterns that may be holding you back.

    During a hypnotherapy session, a trained therapist will guide you into a deep state of relaxation. In this state, you’re more open to suggestion and can access your subconscious mind more easily. The therapist may then use suggestion therapy to help you reframe negative beliefs and develop a more positive mindset.

    Hypnotherapy can also help you visualise success and overcome any fears or anxieties that may be holding you back. By visualising yourself achieving your goals and overcoming obstacles, you can build confidence and motivation to take action.

    In addition to hypnotherapy, other forms of therapy such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and mindfulness-based therapy can also be effective in overcoming self-limiting beliefs and developing a growth mindset.

    In conclusion, while overcoming self-limiting beliefs and achieving your potential can be challenging, there are many strategies and tools available to help you. Hypnotherapy is just one of the many tools that can help you unlock your full potential and live a more fulfilling life.

  • Valentine Competition (CLOSED)

    Valentine Competition (CLOSED)

    Coupled with the facts that hypnotherapy isn’t currently available on the NHS and Valentines Day is coming up, I’d like to offer some sessions for someone who is looking for love. Yes, it’s time for a competition!

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    Maybe you consider yourself to be unlucky in love, or disastrous at dating. Could it be that romantic music or candle light turns you into an awkward teenager again?

    The prize

    I will work with you over a number of sessions to help you relax and allow yourself to be yourself, naturally and easily. When you’re calmer and more confident you can be the one who people enjoy being around. And when two people are relaxed, they can really tell if they’re right for one another.  

    All I ask is the person is reliable, committed and treats the therapy as if they were paying the usual cost. I will choose the person I feel would benefit the most (and fit within my availability). Remember this is likely to be worth over £300 in value but could be the ticket to your future significant other. (results not guaranteed)

    Entries

    All entries to be emailed to me

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    Explain why you feel you could benefit the most from winning this prize of a free course of hypnotherapy.

    Include your name, age, preferred contact method ie SMS, Email, Phone.

    The nitty gritty

    Over 18s only and entries to be emailed to me no later than midnight 14th February 2019.

    One entry per person, entries received after the closing of the competition will be invalid and will not be entered into the competition.

    I will attempt to notify the winner within 21 days after the closing date. He/she will be contacted on the phone number, by SMS text, or email address provided when entering the competition. If I am unable to notify the winner, or if the winner fails to respond within a reasonable time period, this may result in forfeiture of the prize and I reserve the right to select an alternative winner. All entrants will be treated in confidence, however future publicity will be discussed if appropriate. I am based in Bude, North Cornwall so all entrants must be able to make their own travel arrangements.

    I look forward to hearing from you, no need to be shy or embarrassed. GOOD LUCK! Valentine Competition (NOW CLOSED)

  • Goals when you want something

    Goals when you want something

    When you want something, the whole universe conspires.

    When you think about the bills you couldn’t pay, the job you could lose, the sacrifices you have to make, the frustrations in the past etc, you are focusing yourself on what you do not want, which makes it more difficult for you to achieve your goals.

    Often, we are too concerned of not getting the things we want that we tend to shift our thoughts, action and attention to the things we do not want. Many times, our minds are filled with worries and negative beliefs which are too overpowering that we slowly lose track of our goals – things we really want.

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    Focusing on what you want

    The problem is that most of us do not know what we truly want. We tend to focus on things that give us short-term happiness and enjoyment. The key is finding those that have a significant impact on the long-lasting success in our personal lives, relationships and careers. Once you are able to determine what these things are, you start to live your life on purpose. You become inspired, motivated and willing to face whatever kind of challenges and trials that may come your way. You don’t waste time, money and energy because you only care about things that matter.

    And when you really want something, the entire universe conspires to make it happen. That’s the law of attraction. You eliminate the negative beliefs that divert your attention to things you don’t want. These include fear, anger, frustration, anxiety, and worry. Who wants to experience all these? Nobody. But why is it that many people feel these negative emotions?

    Defining your goals

    Thinking on what you do not want does not give you any clue whatsoever on the things you want. Take time to brush away the worries you have and focus your mind on the things you want to achieve in your life, whether it is a fairytale-like love life, an executive post in a prestigious company, or a comfortable life. Write them down. Draw pictures if necessary. Create visual things that will remind you of your goals. If you have many of them, group them according to your priorities. It’s unlikely that you’ll get them all at once. It takes time and perseverance.

    Focusing on your needs

    Who doesn’t want to have huge savings in their bank accounts, a beautiful mansion, a luxury car, and all that wealth? Just by imagining these things, we could already feel some sort of excitement and joy. But in the long run, they become meaningless. Many scientific studies have shown that it is not the material things that give us long lasting happiness. Rather, achieving balance in the major areas of life – physical, emotional, spiritual and interpersonal. By making sure that your needs in all these aspects are met, you could live a life that is full of happiness.