Category: Sexual Therapy

Sexual therapy – Improve your sexual health and well-being with my professional hypnotherapy services and techniques

  • Addressing Sexual problems

    Addressing Sexual problems

    Sex. It happens around 100 million times each day, most of us have it, most of us want it, most of us enjoy it – yet still nobody wants to talk about it. But have you used hypnotherapy for addressing sexual problems?

    Sex, the last taboo?

    Most people say that sexual problems have affected their relationship in some way. After all, sex serves several other functions aside from reproduction, including bonding and stress release. With increasing demands being placed upon people’s time and energy it isn’t uncommon for one partner to be raring to go whilst the other would prefer to hit the snooze button. And if the problem isn’t how often, the next most common issue is how well it’s done.

    Whatever the sexual problems might be though, the first port of call should always be a visit to the doctor so that physical causes can be eliminated. Once it is clear that the problem is not physical, this is where hypnotherapy may be able to help. 

    So what can hypnotherapy actually do? 

    Whilst many individuals will naturally assume that a physical matter lies at the root of their problem, in actual fact many sexual dysfunctions are psychological. With factors such as stress, anxiety, depression and past sexual abuse all coming into play. 

    Typical sexual problems include:

    • Difficulty responding sexually
    • Erectile dysfunction (ED)
    • Anorgasmia
    • Low sexual desire (libido)
    • Premature ejaculation
    • Vaginismus

    Loss of libido

    A reduced sex drive is a common problem that affects both men and women at some point in their lives. There’s no ‘normal’ level of libido, but if you find a lack of desire distressing or it’s affecting your relationships, then it’s probably a very good idea to get help. Stress, anxiety and even exhaustion can have a significant impact on your sex drive.

    As much as you focus on the problem, it can so easily be simply a case of helping you with tiredness, or reducing stress and anxiety. Self-limiting beliefs often crop up – For instance “I don’t give pleasure to my partner” – thoughts such as these can lead to feelings of anxiety and unreasonable performance expectations and can subsequently cause sexual issues to develop. 

    As you can imagine, depression impacts on all areas of your life. But this includes your sex life too. Where prescribed medication is involved, it’s important to speak to your GP to see if the tablets you’re taking may be causing some unwanted side effects with your sex drive.

    Intimacy

    As an example, I help people change perceptions about sexual intercourse or intimacy so that it can be seen as a positive experience and the treatment will also negate the effects of over-anxiety. This can lead to stress, which can make a significant impact on the quality of life and wellbeing. Anxiety and stress can manifest itself differently for everyone but there are often physical and psychological side effects which can be alleviated through hypnotherapy.

    Many of these sexual issues can result from earlier emotional experiences. They can often become repressed and buried into the subconscious part of the mind. As you can imagine, we can also build a negative image about them and turn them into a bigger problem than they need be. So, the key principles of hypnotherapy involve inducing a relaxed state of mind in the client. This state of mind then allows for positive messages to be delivered to the subconscious during this state in a bid to replace any negative or self-limiting thought patterns. 

    As a qualified hypnotherapist here in Cornwall, I could be the first stepping stone towards driving out any sexual issues from underneath the covers. You can also be assured that the issue will be treated with the utmost confidentiality and with due regard to your wishes. Chatting through it during an initial consultation will take into consideration all of the above, and will start to put that wonderful process of putting your mind at ease once again.

  • Valentine Competition (CLOSED)

    Valentine Competition (CLOSED)

    Coupled with the facts that hypnotherapy isn’t currently available on the NHS and Valentines Day is coming up, I’d like to offer some sessions for someone who is looking for love. Yes, it’s time for a competition!

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7fHWVobcg-k

    Maybe you consider yourself to be unlucky in love, or disastrous at dating. Could it be that romantic music or candle light turns you into an awkward teenager again?

    The prize

    I will work with you over a number of sessions to help you relax and allow yourself to be yourself, naturally and easily. When you’re calmer and more confident you can be the one who people enjoy being around. And when two people are relaxed, they can really tell if they’re right for one another.  

    All I ask is the person is reliable, committed and treats the therapy as if they were paying the usual cost. I will choose the person I feel would benefit the most (and fit within my availability). Remember this is likely to be worth over £300 in value but could be the ticket to your future significant other. (results not guaranteed)

    Entries

    All entries to be emailed to me

    neil@coxhypnotherapy.com

    Explain why you feel you could benefit the most from winning this prize of a free course of hypnotherapy.

    Include your name, age, preferred contact method ie SMS, Email, Phone.

    The nitty gritty

    Over 18s only and entries to be emailed to me no later than midnight 14th February 2019.

    One entry per person, entries received after the closing of the competition will be invalid and will not be entered into the competition.

    I will attempt to notify the winner within 21 days after the closing date. He/she will be contacted on the phone number, by SMS text, or email address provided when entering the competition. If I am unable to notify the winner, or if the winner fails to respond within a reasonable time period, this may result in forfeiture of the prize and I reserve the right to select an alternative winner. All entrants will be treated in confidence, however future publicity will be discussed if appropriate. I am based in Bude, North Cornwall so all entrants must be able to make their own travel arrangements.

    I look forward to hearing from you, no need to be shy or embarrassed. GOOD LUCK! Valentine Competition (NOW CLOSED)

  • Surviving an Affair?

    Surviving an Affair?

    I don’t know whether any of you reading this article will have had an affair or maybe contemplated it.

    Or even possibly fantasised about it without acting on it.  But, what I do know is that many relationships won’t survive an affair.

    So the people who get caught, and lets face it most do, will find their relationship in disarray and have no hope of surviving an affair.  The regret they feel and constant deliberation over how they could be so stupid takes over.  The ultimate self-sabotage, so why do people still do it?

    We are all human beings, with basic instincts that sit below what we call our humanity.  In other words, a basic primal need to procreate.  A strong biological basis that drives our emotions which comes from our primitive brain.  Rationalising some of those emotions begin and we even lie to ourselves.  Our minds begin to process the benefits and minimise the risks.

    There is a scene in the film Love Actually. Harry is seen trying to buy some jewellery for Mia, before his wife catches him.  The impatience and urgency when trying to buy the jewellery and hoping he’s not seen.  And then the resultant denial when Karen (his wife) finds him.  This may well be a romantic comedy, but I’m sure this gets replayed for real the world over.

    That may well be a film, but in reality… you see the hurt not just to your respective partner but your children and even friends.  There’s the moving out from the family home into a small flat, and seeing the kids only at weekends.  A downward spiral of despair and regret – not the excitement you somehow imagined.

    Let’s face it just like Christmas, people can find the anticipation better than the real thing.  How many of you get excited about Christmas and then it’s over in a flash?

    I’m a hypnotherapist, I’m not a marriage guidance counsellor but where hypnotherapy can help you is to empower you to make better choices and come to more rational decisions.  We talk about the primitive and the intellectual sides of the brain, how to start wrestling control back and begin the process of making better decisions.  It may well be a case of concluding that a relationship is over but at least you can come to that decision without the undue influence or pressure of an affair.  On the other side of the coin, as a hypnotherapist I can help you put more drive into making your relationships work and avoid the distress and misery of a broken down relationship.

    Finally, I feel it’s absolutely necessary to show my gratitude for my good friend Donald from across the pond. You my friend are an inspiration, and I’m thankful for your input without which this blog wouldn’t have been written.

    For counselling, support and information for all relationships https://www.relate.org.uk

  • Find Love this Valentine’s Day

    Find Love this Valentine’s Day

    February is here and with it Saint Valentines Day.

    Embracing a time of year that is historically associated with love and fertility. It encompasses the sacred marriage of Zeus and Hera in Ancient Athens. And also the Ancient Roman festival of Lupercus, the god of fertility.  You may be spending it with your loved one or dreaming of a loved one you’ve not met yet. Maybe you’re simply dreading this time of the year where everyone else seems to be so “in love”.

    Now, there are several things that we need in order to develop a healthy emotional life. One of which is that we must have the ability to love and receive love.  To care and be cared for by at least one other person is key.  That’s not to say everyone has to find a ‘significant other’. Or even that fulfilment can only be achieved with that one person.  No it’s simply the experience of being cared for or loved that has a beneficial effect on our self-development or sense of worth.

    Effects on our health

    Our resilience increases when we are loved.  Take for example loneliness, it can be as dangerous as high blood pressure, obesity, smoking or a lack of exercise.  When we take it down to the fine detail of the cells of chronically lonely people, they are less sensitive to signalling from the stress system as a result of the stress hormone cortisol.  This is where immune responses then become inadequate.  And when people become chronically lonely they are far more likely to become depressed.

    Networks & Community

    But if people have a strong network of family, friends or community they are happier and emotionally and physically healthier people than those who feel isolated or unable to make connections with others. Interestingly elderly people who rely on two or more people in their lives for support have been found to survive longer after a heart attack than others without that support.  Increasingly common is the situation where people flounder when they live apart.  Following their job or wherever their careers take them, may cause them to be far away from any established social support networks they previously held.  And so they lose contact with the very people who care for them through the unpredictable heartbreaks and uncertainties of life.

    So…what are you waiting for?  Yes it may well be February and valentines day looming but just reach out. Reach out to those who matter too – those friends and relatives.  If we all reached out and made contact with those we have lost contact with, the world would be that little bit happier and feel less isolated.