For a lot of people the anxiety of public speaking is a very natural fear that can cause a degree of anticipation and stress – especially when it’s for something important, like a wedding speech or for a work related presentation.
Some people find that day by day they end up negatively forecasting the presentation. But it’s important to realise our minds can’t tell the difference between imagination and reality when we do this. Intellectually you know it should go ok, and generally these things do, but being you, you start thinking about things going wrong. You think about it 50 times? The actual presentation may go ok, but you have already done it 51 times and 50 of those were disasters.
So when it comes to the event our natural responses kick in – mouth goes dry, heart rate goes up and we end up with our hands trembling. Whilst this is actually a very natural response, it can get in the way of trying to get on with our daily working lives. Fear of public speaking can be particularly damaging for those who desperately want to get on with their lives. The inability or rather fear of being able to stand up in front of a group of business people or friends with an air of confidence and authority can make us feel inadequate.
Public speaking and presentation nerves exist as a result of inappropriate beliefs.
However, a little nervousness can actually give us a much-needed energy boost, create a natural positivity to our delivery and make us feel more vibrant. Unfortunately, if this fear is excessive for the situation then we may well find that nerves get the better of us. Stammering, blushing and even not being able to speak at all can make it feel as if it’s impossible to be a confident speaker.
Whilst working in a business or corporate environment you will inevitably find the expectation of having to present at some point. And probably one of our biggest fears is being laughed at, so you’d rightly feel apprehensive about that!
“I see a lot of clients who come to me who are looking for ways to improve their confidence to help them in both their personal lives and also in business.” But by working with a fully trained and qualified Solution Focused Hypnotherapy practitioner then it is possible to achieve a crucial change in thinking that can make a real difference when it comes down to job interviews or presentations.
“I work with someone over a period of weeks to help them cement the change that they want to gain in their lives.”
“By taking small, regular steps towards achieving their aims then we can soon see a set of positive changes that allow them to focus on real and attainable goals in many areas of life – from the boardroom to the football pitch and from the workplace to home life.”
“I work by helping people to reduce their stress levels to a point whereby they can feel calm, confident and relaxed and so take life in their stride.”
“I do so by working with them during the course of a session to ensure they are in a positive state of thinking before they can relax, unwind and listen to soothing music, together with the sound of my voice, as I help to reassure their mind that they can feel increased confidence during their daily lives.”
Some of the most successful people in the world have struggled to overcome their resistance to public speaking. Richard Branson of Virgin Group is known to hate performing in front of crowds; and billionaire Warren Buffett apparently throws up. Of course there are other techniques apart from using hypnotherapy that can help.
Strike that pose. Don’t be tempted to hide in the corner in the hour leading up to your talk. Make yourself “big” by standing with your legs wide apart and with hands on hips. This helps reduce anxiety and makes you feel more like a leader. Sitting down hunched up, can only ever make you feel less powerful. And if you feel like doing “the penguin” here’s a really handy short video clip to use just before your presentation –
Talk to yourself. “You can do it, Neil!” That may sound odd to most of us, but it’s actually far more effective to refer to your name rather than “I”.
Exercise on the morning of your presentation. There’s a great deal of evidence to show that working out can help reduce anxiety. So in other words, don’t retreat into your room and dwell on it. Rather, go out for a run or bike ride to help.
Simple steps to public speaking success
Of course there are conventional ways of helping you overcome nervousness, but by helping you on a sub-conscious level to control your nerves and feel naturally confident I can ensure your presentation goes the way you really want it to, with a positive and calm elegance. What’s more it can overflow into other areas of your life too, be that relationships, money and other social situations.
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